Well, I already revealed the punchline. Might as well get to the joke.
Do you know what it means to truly love someone?
I’m talking about a no holds barred, unconditional, absolutely liberating free love, that expects NOTHING in return?
Most of the time, when we talk about “love”, people think about relationships with their significant other, spouse, etc. And okay, that is part of it. But we also have different relationships, such as parent/child, neighborly, acquaintances, etc., etc., etc. Even when there are seemingly NO connections, this force can reach out and affect others in a way that we can’t even comprehend yet.
Now, when was the last time you felt miffed because the person you loved or cared about didn’t return the affections? Or did something to disappoint you? For that matter, when was the last time a random stranger made you feel upset and bitter?
I would surmise that it happens to everyone at least once. You will be hurt by someone, and you will hurt someone. We might not think about it in these terms, because it does take a step back to realize what the other person might be going through, but if we’re wise, then we’re willing to admit to ourselves that we’re all more alike than we think.
And there’s a popular saying, “Hurt people, hurt people.”
But did you know that there is a more significant type of love that can permeate the very world around us? And, subsequently, heal the hurt we’re all experiencing?
It's called "forgiveness".
Going through our life, I think most of us have encountered a situation we couldn’t quite fully explain. Perhaps some of us will have reasoned it away with some kind of “logical explanation”. Others, however, will accept it without a second thought. And then there are those, like myself, who will investigate it.
How did I come to this conclusion?
I'm glad you asked.
What would you have done, if one early morning, you were awoken by a sudden vibration, and with that, heard a voice within your mind asking you who would you forgive?
Think it’s crazy?
I would too.
Except it happened to me.
In 2016, I created this video and testimony (unfortunately, I do not have this youtube channel anymore and am unable to recover it) to share a few of my experiences on why I feel “forgiveness” and “love” are the most important factors in our life.
Now, earlier in my life, I was not religious; or very spiritual, if I’m going to be honest. As a matter of fact, I was negative, bitter, angry… I was not a positive person. Looking back, if I did not have the experiences that I had, I guarantee you I would be on a completely different path, and not relaying this message.
And I have to admit, I cannot take credit for turning from a negative, hateful person to one trying to promote peace and forgiveness. That was all… some kind of different force. Which is why this subject fascinates me. Left to my own devices, I would probably still be the bitter, vengeful, violent person I used to be.
Since I believe in questioning things to get to the root solution of a problem, I researched my experiences to see if others had anything similar. And, with a lot of things metaphysical, it is quite hard to find “scientific proof” of these matters. (Which I think is the point.) So we are left to our own reasoning and discernment.
Firstly, out of everything in the universe, why would I have these experiences? What’s the point? I can’t discount my own experiences. I can discount others, simply on it being anecdotal evidence. But my own? I have thought logically about where the messages I received came from. Or the different possibilities of what it could have been. I cannot stress this enough, “It did not come from my own being.” Something else was at work.
(Now, if you were into “conspiracy theories”, one could surmise that it was aliens. Or perhaps I was picking up on some kind of radio interference. Maybe even specific thoughts projected into my mind from some unknown force… You know, who knows what wild possibilities there are out in the world?)
Secondly, when I did find correlations between my experiences and others, noticed that theirs aligned almost exactly with what the messages I received was.
And another interesting aspect of these mysterious events, is that these people’s testimonies? Happened when they were “near death”.
Near Death Experience
Termed N.D.E. – near death experiences, seemed to have given people glimpses into a connected consciousness that has, in a lot of cases, enlightened them into realizing that the most important thing in the world is how we treat each other.
We have to ask, why are some people getting these messages? Why, when practically “on the other side”, are people getting this understanding that we need to learn to love one another, and being sent back with this knowledge?
Can all of these people really be delusional? Or lying? Or going through some kind of hallucinogenic imagination? And in my own experience, I wasn’t anywhere near death, so why did I get the same message?
Logically speaking and critically thinking, I think it’s highly improbable that ALL of these people are lying or embellishing their testimonies. That seems even more improbable to me than people honestly having these experiences. Now, that’s not to say that some people aren’t lying. I’m sure there are. But between my own occurrences aligning with what they’re relaying? Especially when the only reason I even knew about all of these people’s testimonies is because I actively searched for it to help reveal what I went through. And these were the closest accounts that matched eerily identical to mine.
If you haven’t already, I recommend researching on this topic (nderf.org) to see what kinds of nuances and/or insights you might be able to glean from it.
This account from Howard Storm is one of the most powerful messages I’ve seen:
“Love the Person You’re With”
So let’s think about this for a moment. Hundreds, if not thousands, of people – even throughout history – have been claiming to have near death experiences and most of their encounters bring them back with a message to love one another.
Hm… where else have I heard this message before?
Oh yeah! The Bible!
Bible's Messages of Love and Forgiveness
The Bible is a prime example of a piece of history in which a man (the Son of God, Jesus Christ) spreads his message of love and forgiveness.
The Bible has been passed down throughout the centuries, even a few millennia, to bring us all a message of forgiveness and love.
Isn’t it interesting, that the one thing we were commanded to do by God / Jesus Christ (if we are to believe the Bible’s origins) is to love one another? Even if the Bible weren’t true, even if you don’t believe in the Bible, THIS message is, by far, the most important understanding we can have.
Instead of the ultimate message being, “an eye for an eye”, “sweet revenge”, “world domination”, or any of the sort, it is one of simple, yet magnanimous significance.
So now we get to:
Why is Forgiveness and Love So Important?
Why do they go hand in hand?
Imagine growing up in an environment in which you received no love. None at all. Or perhaps some form of corrupted, twisted, abusive kind of “love” that isn’t love at all? How do you think an individual like that will turn out?
And how strong would a person have to be to overcome severe trauma and possible indoctrination to a harmful and immoral background?
It would be extremely difficult, and an incredibly heart-breaking ordeal for someone to suffer through.
Sadly, it is something that some people are subjected to, even as soon as they’re born; a young, helpless child, who knows no other lifestyle.
Now some people can break out of this vicious cycle, and consciously think to themselves that they would never want someone else to go through what they had to. It takes strength, courage, and a strong sense of awareness and reflection to come to this realization.
For others, their hurt and pain is too much, or perhaps their childhood and/or social conditioning corrupted and warped their outlook and gave them a twisted version of what life is supposed to be. So they continue that cycle on others.
And hence, we come to the universe’s big secret, the way to reverse all the bad, evil, horrible actions that have been done upon each other.
We forgive, and love.
It sounds so simple, so easy, but it is quite possibly one of the hardest things in the world to do. After all, when someone wrongs us, it’s very easy to want to get revenge or become bitter and spiteful and want nothing more to do with this person. But I believe this is a grave mistake.
Love is a healing power, that we should not just save for our direct “loved ones”. To truly grow in unconditional love, involves loving everyone in the world. That is how we get to truly connect with one another and spread the compassion and positivity. One person’s actions will affect another, and so on and so forth.
And yes, we will occasionally run into the issue of people taking advantage of others for this forgiveness and love and compassion, but I truly think that once this love and forgiveness grabs hold and connects us to each other, we will lose this desire to want to cause harm to others, and we will become less greedy, less selfish, less hateful, and start to grow in love, truth, integrity and light.