Why is Love so Important?

Imagine a world with, and without Love. What do you see?

Hello Dear Readers,

If you’ve been to this site before, then you might realize a big focus that I address is that Love is the most important thing in the universe. I talk about it a lot. And it’s actually really hard for me to talk about on a day like today, for instance.

By the way, Happy Thanksgiving.
 

I’m not sure how everybody else is, but before, when I was still in my bitter, pessimistic days, it used to be really hard for me to say “I love you.” I might have gotten this reluctance to say it from my Mother. Don’t get me wrong, I adored her and loved her. But I think because she rarely ever said it, it must have rubbed off on me and I patterned myself after her in that regard.

It wasn’t until September 2007, that for some reason, while driving my Mom to work, I felt compelled to tell my Mom that I love her. I don’t even know where this sudden feeling came from. It just occurred to me that I couldn’t remember the last time I said, “I love you” to anyone. She looked shocked, because I think she realized it too, and she said “I love you” back. There was a feeling of imminent foreshadowing in that moment, and I instantly knew that something was different.

I remember it was September of 2007 very specifically, because, maybe ironically, the very next month she was diagnosed with cancer. And the next month after that, on Thanksgiving Day, she passed away.

I remember feeling lost, confused, hurt… losing someone on Thanksgiving Day; a day where family is traditionally supposed to come together and unite in a “happy” feast and reunion, and giving thanks to God for His blessings and of bountiful harvests.

It was a bitter reminder to me that practically during my whole life, I was ungrateful and unappreciative of the people in my life – or at least, I didn’t show my appreciation. Perhaps on the inside I knew how blessed I really was, but instead I chose to remain in the negativity and resentment of whatever teenage and early twenties angst I was focusing on at the time.

For what reason?

In my mind, I felt that the world was a lost cause. I saw injustices and hatred everywhere I turned. Selfishness, greediness, uncaring, hateful souls… My heart was turning black, cold, becoming “hardened”. It wasn’t until an event a few years earlier did a light suddenly go off in me and I started changing my ways. But even then, it still took more divine interventions to change my heart into following God and Love.

And although I did blame God for a time for taking my Mother from me just when I started to realize how little I was appreciating the people in my life, did it finally occur to me that it was my fault. I had the choice to appreciate my loved ones from the beginning or not. I had the choice to just assume they knew how much I loved them even though I didn’t tell them that or show them. It was my choice to be cold and distant instead of warm and loving.

Thankfully, with what I believe to be God’s help, He didn’t give up on me and He continued to work on me. I was the lost cause in this story. But He still saved me. He showed me that “Love is the Answer”.

And my heart goes out to anyone who has gone through life without Love. Sadly, some grow up in a household or living conditions without Love shown to them. And this is absolutely heartbreaking. The thing is, even though it may not seem like it, you are still loved. There are many people that have love and compassion for every being on this planet. And although there are atheists that don’t believe in God and there are pagan worshippers, idolaters, etc., it is my belief that God/Jesus still loves them. Regardless if one believes in them or not.

The only thing Jesus asks of us, is that we love God, love each other and ourselves, as Jesus Himself loves us.

That’s it.

And here’s the thing. If we did that, then we wouldn’t be living with hatred, division, greed, etc. If we all loved each other like we should, all of us would be happy and care about each other. And we would appreciate each other and not take each other for granted.

This is the world that I envision. I can see it and I can feel it in my heart. But we need to work on ourselves and work on the Love we have within. No, we cannot expect others to change. We can hope, love and pray for them, but we do have control over our own lives and our own emotions. We have the power to allow ourselves to realize that Unconditional Love is the most important thing in the universe and to act upon that and put it in motion. Love others, love your enemies, love everyone… and that will change the world.

Depiction of the world we would have with and without love.

Altered with combined images from Reimund Bertrams and Pexels from Pixabay (and added text).

Now, I’d like to say that I learned my lesson. I catch myself saying “I love you” to my son often. Not out of mindless habit, but simply because the love I feel for him is so overwhelming and I truly want him to know that I love him dearly. I say “I love you” to my friends and other members of my family. I say “I love you” to animals. I pray to God/Jesus and the Heavenly host and thank them all and tell them that I love them. I love the world and the beauty that it holds.

And on that note, I love you all, and I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving. If I may ask of you anything, it is to simply love others, and be thankful and show appreciation for the ones you have in your life. Don’t wait until it’s too late.

Love and blessings to you all.

Featured image by Glegle from Pixabay

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How do we Change the World?

Can we change it? If so, how?

There are many injustices in life. The world is hanging in the balance between a spiritual warfare that many don’t believe in. So how do we make a difference?

Where do we begin?

It starts, with our children. And, more specifically, more importantly, it starts with YOU. Whether you’re a parent, relative, teacher, legal guardian: YOU have the power to make a difference. Children are essential in shaping and paving the way for a brighter future. But in order to guide them in the right direction, we, as adults, need to step up and be the right model.

Think back to your childhood. What do you remember? How were you raised? How did society treat you?

We all have the world in our hands. The question is, what are we going to do about it?
We all have a hand in the world. Some choose to do good with it. Some choose to do the opposite. What will you choose?

Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay

We all have a hand in what goes on in our world; whether we’re conscious about it or not. Our actions affect others, even in the slightest way; be it positive or negative.

Maybe it shouldn’t. Maybe we should be strong enough to not let others dictate how we should respond and react. But let’s be honest. We’re social creatures and our day to day interactions mold us into who we are today.

Now imagine being a child again and how impressionable and trusting we are by nature into the very hands of those who raise us. What better timeframe to teach them the most important aspect of our purpose here than during the more pure, unbiased, pivotal moments of their life?

And what is our purpose, you may ask? Why, it’s so simple, so obvious, so unassuming, that we can easily overlook it if we’re not paying attention.

It's to LOVE one another.

30 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ 31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”
Mark 12:30-31
How do we change the world? We love one another. True, genuine, unconditional love.
How do we end war? Love. How do we end world hunger? Love. How do we end abuse, violence, hatred? Love.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails.
Corinthians 13:4-8

Love has many different perspectives, but the core, fundamental idea behind this very important force, is to grow in unconditional compassion and kindness towards each other.

We all could benefit from humbly learning to hold our family and friends (and enemies alike!) in mutual respect and reverence. Our purpose is selfless service to others and to spread unconditional love no matter who it is and no matter where we go.

This holds especially true with children. They are naturally born to receive their parents/guardians as their protector, supporter and hold them in the highest regards with as much devotion and innocence a being can give that has yet to be tainted by a sometimes harsh society. True this may be due to the human condition of reliance since a baby/child has no other option than to submit to their caregiver. And this goes hand in hand with their predisposition at such a young age, as we all once were (and as part of the limitations of any physical body), of survival.

Be a Compassionate Mentor/Teacher

And herein lies the opportunity for the best teachable moments in our life. During these times, when a baby is going through their natural survival instincts and into their childhood with interacting with others, it is crucial to teach them about:

The best things to teach children? Not regular school subjects...
When is the best time to teach love and compassion? Do we even think about it? We should be teaching these very important values as soon as they're born.
  •    love
  •    trust
  •    caring
  •    sharing
  •    patience
  •    kindness
  •    tolerance
  •    forgiveness
  •    compassion
  •    selflessness
  •    understanding
  • Isn’t it amazing that our children learn everything from their A, B, C’s to quantum physics when they’re in school? Yet, when do they really learn about love and forgiveness? Do parents effectively teach these extremely important attributes? Or do we take it for granted that children will learn it on their own? Maybe we should put more emphasis on these subjects than academic knowledge… (at least in their early years).

    These will be very important stepping stones in helping them overcome the potential trials and tribulations they may encounter while growing up and having to come face to face with making their own decisions.

    The best way for a child to learn how to be loving and compassionate, is by example. When they are taught how to be kind and empathetic, by observing and receiving these actions, it helps develop their own state of mind and lifestyle.

    Have Integrity

    Doing the right thing may seem hard to some people, especially if they feel as if there’s an “easier” way of doing things. Or if they were raised in an environment that wasn’t quite conducive to making the right choices.

    Sadly, some children around the world grow up in abusive households, and/or drug addicted parents, alcoholics, corrupted orphanages, foster care, homelessness, etc. In some cases, it is because a child is defenseless and powerless that they are abused and taken advantage of. It is absolutely heartbreaking, because instead of those meant to protect them, these people instead exert their power and authority over them just because they can.

    This is the background some children have lived in and is all they’ve ever known. And so when they grow up and have children of their own, they unwittingly make the same choices. Not knowing that there’s a different way; and so the vicious cycle continues.

    Perhaps you know from firsthand experience what I’m talking about. And it takes a lot of courage, strength, and inner light to make the conscious decision to get out of that cycle and into a mindful awareness to choose to raise your children in a different way; and to never subject them to a cruel, dark, abusive lifestyle.

    Now, here’s the thing: if we could ALL reach this level of awareness and compassion towards one another, then slowly but surely our world will be transformed and we will start seeing less war, less hunger, less suffering, less hate; and more peace, more abundance, more happiness, and more love.

    Forgive and Pray

    Forgiveness is another huge factor in this journey of changing the world. How do we expect to change the world if we’re still holding on to our grudges, bitterness, wrongdoings…? The key to be set free from that is to forgive ourselves, and to forgive others. 

    This is one of the most important (and difficult) aspects of this pursuit. To forgive and love our enemies in kind. It is quite easy to love our sweet grandparents, or our adorable children, or our doting spouse; even our loyal and wonderful pets.

    But on the other hand… when we have a troublesome co-worker, a bully in school, a difficult ex, a hardened criminal… things get A LOT tougher.

    So this is when we pray, and love, and have faith that the Lord hears us. And if not working a miracle of a change in heart for those we pray for, then to pray for a change of heart for ourselves that we can forgive them and not hold any grudges; for true love is unconditional.

    27 But to you who are listening I say, "Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.
    Luke 6:27-28
    31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. 32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
    Ephesians 4:31-32

    Be a Humble Student

    One last note, looking back to where I mentioned how little children hold their caregiver in high regard… In reality, WE should hold THEM in high regard. We should honor and care for them and treat them with the utmost respect and look to them to re-learn how to be humble and forgiving.

    Most children will have retained their loving, forgiving demeanor until it is (sometimes) quashed by the harsh corruption of those “in charge”. Why would we want to be a part of this destruction? Their innocence and pure love should be cherished and valued. Why do some feel the need to take advantage of this and ruin it?

    (Perhaps there is something to the spiritual warfare that has a role in this type of abomination that wants to destroy the loving part of humanity…)

    If we take considerations on the innocence and inherent goodness of little children, perhaps we can re-learn how to be loving, forgiving, caring and humble.

    – Young girl tells her mom that she is taking too much candy while out trick-or-treating. After seeing a bowl of candy with a note asking trick-or-treaters to please take one or two, the mom instead takes huge handfuls, despite her young daughter trying to tell her to put it back.

    Even though this is one of the less severe forms of what parents “inadvertently” (or sometimes on purpose) teach their children, it is still a lesson on how to have integrity and teach our children right from wrong; not the other way around.

    Instead of us corrupting children, let’s learn from them.

    16 Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. 17 Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.
    Luke 18:16-17
    2 And He called a child to Himself and set him before them, 3 and said, "Truly I say to you, unless you are converted and become like children, you will not enter the kingdom of Heaven. 4 Whoever then humbles himself as this child, he is the greatest in the kingdom of Heaven.
    Matthew 18:2-4

    So how do we change the world?

    It starts with you. It starts with me. It starts with our children.

    We forgive and love and pray. We teach our children to do the same.

    And it must be said, we need to take care of the Earth, as well. The constant pollution to our land and water will be extremely detrimental not only to our health, but to our state of mind as well. Having the respect and reverence for nature will keep it beautiful and abundant.

    When each of us, one by one, come to this realization and work on bettering ourselves and the world in general, then we will become the example for future generations to follow, and bliss and happiness will prevail.

    Apocalyptic world. We can choose to not let this happen.
    Beautiful mountains. Mother nature is equally as important as teaching our children the art of love and compassion. We should be taking care of the Earth as well.
    "Be the change you want to see in the world."
    - Mahatma Gandhi

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