Why is Having Integrity so Hard?

Do we just lack a moral compass? Have we lost our way?

What ever happened to integrity? Does it seem lacking in the world today? Has it gotten worse? Has it gotten better? Or has it always been this way?

I’ve been asking myself this lately while looking at the election wars and the claims that it’s rigged and fixed. Accounts of people getting caught cheating on the ballots. USPS drivers dumping or burning votes for one particular party. Poll watchers getting kicked out if they represent one party over the other… So many different suspicious activity surrounding this election. (And probably others that we have no idea about.)

Of course some people are finding out also about the MSM and the tech giants attacking the republican party. I find it amazing if even the democrats don’t realize that. With so many right-leaning voices being censored and deleted just for expressing their opinion seems mind-boggling to me, to be honest. And even more so, are those that see nothing wrong with it.

I find it fascinating that some people would rather live in a country who encourages lies and subterfuge in order to get their way, rather than an honest and fair election where truly all voices are heard. For those that participate in this horrible deception, I hope you realize that these are exactly the type of people that will bite the hand of those that feed them. Their only goal was to win, and they don’t care about the people they’ve deceived to help them reach their ends.

Now, with that being said, I also understand how many people will be encouraged to participate with bribery. It’s not that they necessarily lean right or left, it’s what they can gain from voting a particular way. Again, where did the integrity go? What happened to having values and standing up for your beliefs? Is this really the way American is heading?

It sometimes seems as if people will also just choose the easy way out. They will lie, cheat, steal… whatever they feel will make their lives easier, instead of working hard and earning their way. Some hold no bones stepping over others just to get ahead, and look down on others who do the right thing and claim that they are weak, pathetic… losers.

This is furthest from the truth.

And what is this teaching our children? Who are the ones participating in these deceptive acts? Are they okay with teaching their children that in order to win, we must trick, deceive, lie, accept bribes, take advantage of others, etc., etc.? Is this what the world is heading to?

Stay Strong

I refuse to cave in. I refuse to hang up my integrity and be reduced to fighting fire with fire. In a world with so little honesty and integrity, it is crucial to remain steadfast in these values and not give in and become one of them. Some people think everyone has a price. And sadly, for some people, that is true. But there are others who don’t care how much money they are offered. They will still stay strong and refuse these offers.

Then there are others that cave in to threats. And there are those that don’t. There are people that realize that this life we’re living in is not all there is in the world. We have a purpose. ALL of us have a purpose. And it’s so simple yet so hard to do.

All we need to do in this world, is learn to love and forgive one another.

That’s it.

If we do that, if we just learn to grow in love and forgiveness, then we wouldn’t want to harm anyone. We wouldn’t want to trick and lie to anyone. We wouldn’t want to keep up this charade of division and hate. Our purpose would grow and evolve to love one another and care about each other. We would have integrity and want to do the right thing.

Why is that so hard to do?

Part of it, is because of the way we’re raised. Pure and simple. Sadly, the true reality is that there are some kids that are not wanted. It’s heartbreaking, but it’s true. Again, this goes back to being a loving and kind human being. Even if a child was not expected, to treat the child with such disdain and hostility is just continuing the vicious cycle of hate and derision. And the child did not ask to be born anyway. So ultimately, who’s responsible for this choice?

Some children are given up for adoption, and the sad reality of some adoption establishments are up for debate. Tales of abuse and neglect, and horrible “household” placements are rampant in this industry. While some legitimate adoption centers can certainly be found, the fact that even some are participating in illegal activities is sadly found as well.

We also have cases where the child is unfortunately born out of rape. It is gut-wrenching all around. The mother did not expect it, and it was just an extremely devastating incidence of violence creating this situation. This is much harder to accept but one could come to the conclusion that even though this atrocious act happened, the “universe” or fate (something), wanted to create something beautiful out of this travesty. And children are the greatest blessing in the world.

But some people don’t treat them as such. Some people treat them as a burden. And they neglect them, take advantage of them, abuse them… the horrors that some people inflict on children are too numerous and truly heinous. This neglect and abuse could twist their outlook on life, and they grow up to treat others in the same manner.

There are even cases where the adults actually teach their children to be manipulative and deceptive. They teach them to be a bully and discriminate against others. There are people that encourage children to be vicious and that it’s a dog eat dog world. (Then we wonder how our world got to the way it was.)

Some people are fine without any children. Some are certain they don’t want any. And there is nothing wrong with that. One can be an honest, loving, compassionate person without wanting any children. But for those that do want them, then yes, the responsibility of raising these children is squarely up to you.

To raise a child isn’t simply to put them in front of a tv screen or a video game. It isn’t to let the daycare/school raise them. As a matter of fact, schools as of late seem to be more of an indoctrination camp than a place where a child can get an education. We must be aware of the material our children are being exposed to. And we must be the parent (not just a “best friend”) and teach them integrity and values and how to be loving and compassionate.

Even if one is raised well, in a sweet, caring household, sometimes society gets their claws on our values and twists it, corrupts it. What was once a caring, kind, generous soul sometimes falls prey to the harsh realities of the outside world. Our views and beliefs get tested and stomped on, with some coming to the (false) realization that in order to get ahead we have to throw others to the side and have the mentality that it’s all for me. “I have to do this for me. I have to do this for my family. The only way to succeed is to stomp on others to get ahead. It’s the only way I can provide for my family.”

This is so far from the truth. But sadly some people will believe this lie. And their once sweet, caring demeanor turns them into a selfish, greedy, power-hungry individual that loses their humanity.

Have you seen the lack of integrity in your day to day life? Are there steps you’re taking to ingratiate yourself into spreading honesty and integrity to the people around you?
Some real life examples I have found, for both those with integrity and without, are below:

Without Integrity:

  • a coworker encouraging another employee to take longer breaks, just so she can turn around and snitch on this employee
  • cases of people throwing other people under the bus to rise in the ranks at their job
  • group of kids relying on one person to do the entire group project, just so they can take credit for it afterwards
  • an employee blaming a coworker for a project that went wrong – even though they were the one who made the mistake
  • people scamming others on video games to get free items / in-game currency
  • a mother leaving her child with a family member for days on end so she can pursue a relationship with another
  • a parent encouraging their son to bully another child

These are just a few examples of real life cases that I have personally seen a lack of integrity. There are many others, of course, with even more brutal repercussions, but these are just some that I have seen happen to myself and/or others in my regular daily life.

Now here are some examples of people displaying integrity:

With Integrity:

  • children on a team working together and including everyone to play, without discluding anyone; even if some children are completely new and didn’t know how to play
  • a boss apologizing to an employee for singling him out in front of everyone
  • a child telling his mother the truth when another family member was trying to cover (lie) for him
  • an employee owning up to a mistake that was made and took the blame, rather than pawning the situation off on another
  • a group of kids equally partaking in a group project and each contributing fairly
  • a person in an opposing group, admitting when his own side is cheating the system
  • a student with the opportunity to cheat, but chooses not to, risking a bad grade in the process

Choose to do the Right Thing

There are plenty of ways that people can decide to choose to do the right thing, and those that choose not to. It all boils down to our code of ethics. Some have a stronger moral compass. And others don’t seem to have one at all.

But we have the power to stop this awful cycle by being caring and compassionate ourselves. Teach the children and others that we don’t have to live in a world without integrity and decency. Be the strong, brave person and rise above it all and refuse to cave in to this system. Be an example for others to see that even though the world has its dark and deceptive moments, that you will not participate in that. You will continue to do the right thing.

And it doesn’t matter if you believe in God or not. I, personally, DO believe in God and encourage others to seek the truth as well. But I think what God really looks at, is what’s inside your heart. Some might not believe in God per se, but if you have unconditional love and compassion in your heart, then you actually DO know Him. Just not in the way that you think.

And I believe in Jesus Christ. I believe he was the example that walked the Earth trying to show us a better way of living, but the people that were opposed to this new way of living wanted to remain in a state of debauchery and sin. And therefore hated him. I honestly believe that a lot of division and chaos going on in the world today is because of these ancient civilizations refusing to conform to Jesus’s teachings. Which is why it’s in the state it’s in. They know he exists, they know God exists, but they stay in a position of defiance and rebelliousness.

This will be their downfall, but it doesn’t have to be for you.

Do the right thing. Choose the right path, no matter which road you take. Have integrity and stand up for your beliefs. Just make sure you’re on the right side…

20 Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness, who put bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter! 21 Woe to those who are wise in their own eyes, and shrewd in their own sight!
Isaiah 5:20-21
15 Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16 For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions—is not from the Father but is from the world. 17 And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever.
John 2:15-17

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What is “Being Successful”?

The answer may surprise you.

What does “success” mean to you?

Perhaps getting a promotion at your job? Rising to the top of the ranks? Getting good grades in school? Scoring a perfect game? Having a large family with a nice big house, perfect yard, white picket fence? Owning your own business?

All of these are very ambitious goals to have.

And, ultimately, don’t matter.

The Key to Success

If you’re familiar with this site, you’ll know that I cover a wide range of different topics to spread awareness. Some are more of a guideline into becoming more kind and compassionate – to change the world for the better; and some take a trip down the dark side – going into awful, depraved things that are going on that the world NEEDS to know.

Both of these go hand in hand because how do we improve our future, if the darkness remains and is allowed to run rampant while we all turn a blind eye?

“Why is all of this relevant to my success?” you may ask?

It has EVERYTHING to do with it.

Let me explain.

I already know I will get doubters and naysayers thinking that this site is just another woo-woo site. And I’m perfectly okay with that. After all, who said the universe had to be anything but “natural”? It most certainly isn’t. Or is it? Perhaps the “supernatural” simply doesn’t exist, and everything is, at it’s core, “natural”.

With that being said, I am also a huge proponent of near death experiences. Why? Because I have personally had a few experiences that I could not simply explain away as “natural”. And they were eerily similar to nde’s. Let me be clear. I was not near death. I don’t drink or do drugs. I wasn’t dreaming or hallucinating. How else could I explain it?

Oh, right. I must be crazy!
I'm not crazy! I swear!
Crazy people don't know that they're crazy. I know I'm crazy therefore I'm not crazy. Isn't that crazy?

That’s obviously the only other rational explanation here. Right? Even more obvious than there really is something more going on than meets the eye, and we’re all just full of our own pride and hubris to admit it. Because, after all, it’s been admitted by scientists and researchers all over the world that we know absolutely everything there is to know about the universe. Case closed, everyone. No more mysteries. Everything’s been solved!

Oh. That’s right. That’s never been said in the history of ever.

(Yes, I may show a slight sarcasm at times. My apologies.)

Getting back into it, my own experiences forced me to take a look outside of my own scope of understanding. Now for those who have never had an unusual experience? I cannot say. If I had never had this happen to me, would I be the person I am today? Most likely not. I was heading down the WRONG path. And I actually surmise that ALL of us go through these unusual experiences at least once in our life, but we explain it away with a “logical” explanation. Therefore diminishing the actual impact it may have had on our life.

I know the topic of near death experiences is a controversial one. But isn’t it interesting that SO many people come back with a message that contradicts the way they were living life on Earth? Let’s take a look at one of the more prominent examples of Howard Storm.

His idea of success was like most people. Do well in school. Have a great career. Make a lot of money. Be respected and revered in his community and among his colleagues.

But during his near death experience, he was met with a HUGE wake-up call:

Howard Storm

My life was shown in a way that I had never thought of before. All of the things that I had worked to achieve, the recognition that I had worked for, in elementary school, in high school, in college, and in my career, they meant nothing in this setting.

I could feel their feelings of sorrow and suffering, or joy, as my life’s review unfolded. They didn’t say that something was bad or good, but I could feel it. And I could sense all those things they were indifferent to. They didn’t, for example, look down on my high school shot-put record. They just didn’t feel anything towards it, nor towards other things which I had taken so much pride in.

What they responded to was how I had interacted with other people. That was the long and short of it. Unfortunately, most of my interactions with other people didn’t measure up with how I should have interacted, which was in a loving way. Whenever I did react during my life in a loving way they rejoiced.
 
Most of the time I found that my interactions with other people had been manipulative. During my professional career, for example, I saw myself sitting in my office, playing the college professor, while a student came to me with a personal problem. I sat there looking compassionate, and patient, and loving, while inside I was bored to death. I would check my watch under my desk as I anxiously waited for the student to finish.

I got to go through all those kinds of experiences in the company of these magnificent beings.

When I was a teenager my father’s career put him into a high-stress, twelve-hour-a-day job. Out of my resentment because of his neglect of me, when he came home from work, I would be cold and indifferent toward him. This made him angry, and it gave me further excuse to feel hatred toward him. He and I fought, and my mother would get upset. Most of my life I had felt that my father was the villain and I was the victim. When we reviewed my life I got to see how I had precipitated so much of that, myself. Instead of greeting him happily at the end of a day, I was continually putting thorns in him in order to justify my hurt.

I got to see when my sister had a bad night one night, how I went into her bedroom and put my arms around her. Not saying anything, I just lay there with my arms around her. As it turned out that experience was one of the biggest triumphs of my life.

– Howard Storm (near-death.com)

In his testimony, Howard Storm is basically admitting his shortcomings of what was expected of him. He realized that his idea of success was met with indifference and did not matter in the grand scheme of things. What actually mattered was how he treated others. Which begs the questions, “What does “success” really mean for us?”

My friends then said, “Do you think that we expect you to be perfect, after all the love we feel for you, even after you were on Earth blaspheming God, and treating everyone around you like dirt? And this, despite the fact that we were sending people to try and help you, to teach you the truth? Do you really think we would be apart from you now?”

– Howard Storm (near-death.com)

It’s also interesting how Howard Storm refers to himself and how he treated people. He acknowledges that he “treated them like dirt”. It takes a humble and insightful person to come to this realization. (Or a person who has been enlightened by a divine encounter…)

When he [Jesus] told me that I had to come back to the world and I was trying to convince him not to send me back to this world, I asked him what would I do if I came back… Before he had a chance to answer, I said, you know I am an artist and I would like to build you a shrine… I would make this shrine so big and beautiful and bizarre that people would come from all over the world out of curiosity to see what it was about. And what they would find was it would be about you. And that would make them think about you. That’s what I would like to do if I came back.

He said, I would rather you didn’t do that.

And I said, WHAT?!! People have been building shrines to you forever. There are lots of shrines. Why can’t I build a shrine? I would like to build a shrine.

He said you spent so much of your life hiding out in the studio, avoiding people, I would prefer it if you didn’t avoid people by building this big shrine… I don’t really care about shrines. People like to build shrines. I understand that. It makes them feel good. It does absolutely nothing for me or for God. We don’t have any use for them whatsoever. If that’s what amuses you, I guess that’s what you gotta do. But don’t do it for me. Don’t deceive yourself into thinking it’s something I want or need, because I don’t.

I’m like, OK, you shot down my idea, what’s you’re idea of what would I do?

And he said, love the person that you’re with.

And I said, OK, great, I’ll do that. No problem. What do you want me to do?

He said, I just told you what I want you to do: love the person that you’re with.

And I said, Yeah, but after I do that, what do you really want me to do?

No, that is what I want you to do: love the person that you’re with.

I said well, that’s simple enough, that’s easy, I can do that.

And he said, oh really. Well, that’s what I want you to do. That’s enough.

And I said, how is it enough?

He said, if you do that, you’ll change the world.

– Howard Storm (near-death.com)

Again, Howard Storm admits that his idea of how he wanted to honor God/Jesus was shot down. Instead, he was given a very direct task. That didn’t have anything to do with Howard’s profession or what he actually wanted to do – what he thought was the best way to honor God. No, he was simply told to “love the person you’re with”.

Dr. Dianne Morrissey

Dianne Morrissey has also experienced a life review in which her acts of unselfish kindness overrode anything else she did in life.

“At the same time, to my amazement, I was re-living my entire twenty-eight years simultaneously! The best experiences brought me feelings of great joy, as if God were talking to me through the angelic being, sharing the highest moments of my life. I felt as if every spirit in Heaven was watching with me, applauding me and letting me know that God approved of my caring, unselfish deeds. It was then that I asked myself, ‘Am I dead? Am I really dead?’

“As the life review continued, I was shown two very special deeds I had performed. As these scenes were displayed before me, every emotion I had originally felt returned in full force. I also felt as if God and the angelic being were honoring me for having performed those deeds.

“The first deed I witnessed had occurred the day I stopped my car to help push a woman’s stalled station wagon out of mainstream traffic and into a supermarket driveway. The driver had been struggling to push the car by herself, and I felt compelled to give her a helping hand. After I had helped push her vehicle to safety, I rushed back to my car, afraid of getting a ticket for being double-parked. In my haste, I hadn’t given her a chance to thank me. While reviewing this scene, I was filled with indescribable feelings of love, which seemed to be directed to me from angelic beings high above me.
 
“Then, my angel showed me a second vision, a scene I’d forgotten. I now saw myself at seventeen, when I’d worked at a convalescent hospital after school. I had grown fond of a toothless old woman who was no longer able to speak clearly, and who never had visitors. She liked to suck on graham crackers before going to bed, but no one wanted to serve her because when she had finished, she would drool as she kissed the entire length of the arm of the person feeding her. While others avoided her, I willingly fed her the cookies she adored, seeing how happy this made her.
 
“When that scene was replayed for me, I felt as if every loving spirit in God’s kingdom was thanking me in unison. I was amazed that such an act could have meant so much to God – and to me. I felt humbled and very honored.

Dr. Dianne Morrissey – (near-death.com)

During her return to her body, Dianne comes to the revelation that the “American dream” she had attained no longer mattered. And she regretted not living more meaningfully by reaching out to others:

“I finally found myself back in my house, once again looking down at my physical body. This time, I realized that my physical body had the potential to live again. I had begun to care less and less whether I returned to my physical body, but at this moment, looking down at my body, my attitude underwent a change. I thought, ‘How sad; she has done so very little.’ I realized ‘Dianne’ hadn’t touched as many people as she could have while alive. And I realized how life could be enriched by touching others lives more deeply and meaningfully.
 
“While alive, as Dianne, I had always known that my life was full of certain pleasures: a beautiful home, a good job, a nice car, warm friends, a wonderful family, a beloved best friend, and a musical career I loved. ‘But none of these matter any more,’ I thought, reversing myself again. Only the Light mattered. Only God mattered.

Dr. Dianne Morrissey – (near-death.com)

Daniel Rosenblit

Daniel explains how he felt towards his fellow man before he had his near death experience. He admits how condescending, inconsiderate, and rude he was to those he felt were “inferior”. He also explains how easily “success” came to him.

After my spiritual self died, I was neither interested in God, nor concerned about spiritual matters whatsoever. As I grew older it appeared to me that religious people were weak and used religion as their crutch. I considered myself to be a strong, self-reliant person who did not need any crutch, so I felt superior to them. I grew into puberty a purely carnal creature. Pretty girls and squeezing the gusto out of life became everything to me.

I was the type of person who was successful in everything I did. I was a good student and an excellent athlete – as a wrestler and football player. Though I was short in stature (5’6″), I won awards as a wrestler and was an exceptional running back in football. God blessed me with being an excellent football player and many of my classmates admired me for this. But instead of acknowledging God’s hand for my skills, I was becoming puffed-up with pride. I was not grateful to God, nor did I give Him any credit for anything (At this time in my life I doubted whether a Higher Power even existed).

I considered my friends and myself to be upper crust people, and I looked down with contempt on people in school who I viewed as physically weak. Additionally, I considered ugly or fat girls to be utterly useless. A few of my classmates would regularly make jokes directed at the mentally retarded and physically handicapped kids, or racist jokes directed against blacks or Puerto Ricans. I grew up in an all-white school. But I never laughed to their faces, but I laughed along with the crowd behind their backs. One exception was that I belittled a black fellow who was in my troop when I was a boy scout. I believed that there were a few winners and mostly losers in life, and I considered myself one of the winners.

Note:  At the time of my death experience, I was your typical narcissistic college student who was solely seeking personal pleasure and personal goals. Like most middle class young people in America, I had no responsibilities. With all my spare time and energy, I desperately tried to squeeze the most fun and pleasure out of life than I possibly could. Spiritual matters meant nothing to me.

Daniel Rosenblist – (near-death.com)

Here Daniel realizes that everything he strived for, everything he thought that mattered, was actually completely contradictory to what he was shown. And that he was doing everything wrong!

In this new divine light, I saw more Reality. The Reality was this:

My entire life had been one huge test and I was now being graded on literally everything! Every word, deed, and even thought!

Interestingly enough, my judge was not some immense being on a great white throne. Something had emerged from within myself which I believe was my soul, and “It” sat in judgment of me. I had never recalled ever being in touch with this part of myself before. My soul showed absolutely no partiality towards me, even though “It” had resided within me my entire life.

My own soul sat in Judgment of my entire life. It assumed a totally objective and impartial role. At this time I was fully aware that this soul of mine would just as soon plunge me into Hell rather than offend God. “It” knew perfection, which is God’s standard, and all of my actions were compared to this standard. By “perfection,” I mean pure, untainted Love.

Also, because I was living contrary to God’s ways, I learned that all of creation considered me their enemy and was poised to persecute me! I learned that all of creation serves God except for human beings. This is because we are the only creatures with free will. But most of us choose to misuse it!

I was shown that pure love was serving God and others without any self-centered motives. Even if one was motivated to perform a good deed in order to feel good about one’s own self or to attain future treasures in heaven, this would be considered to be a tainted act; totally unacceptable to God. I was shown that God only accepts selfless acts of love. God is Love. Love only recognizes love.

Daniel Rosenblist – (near-death.com)

So what are we striving for? What is the REAL definition of “being successful”?

Since most of our neighbors – the entire human race – live their lives in darkness and are headed for very great sorrow at the time of death, we are real fools if we compare ourselves to them! God showed me the wise alternative is to compare ourselves to the holy ones … the saintly – people such as the eastern mystics, Mother Teresa, etc. Truly, God expects us all to become like these holy ones! I’m not kidding!! Indeed, God’s expectations of our character are far, far higher than most realize or want to admit! Jesus taught people to ”be perfect as your Father is in Heaven.” My friends, this is not an opinion. It is a commandment! He fully expects us to sincerely strive for it!

The Holy One showed me that throughout my entire life, my ego had occupied the center-stage of my life. I had lived solely for gratifying myself. I was motivated by self-interest in everything that I did; though, I had never consciously thought about this before. The foundation of my life was myself and all of my actions were performed to obtain some type of reward for myself; either tangible or intangible. Either I wanted money, sex, a pat on the back, a wink, a smile, someone to think well of me, etc. Thus, all of my acts had been polluted by selfish motives in varying degrees. Thus, until this point all of my life’s deeds had been totally unacceptable to God!

Actually, I was shown that I had not even performed one deed that was acceptable to God my entire life; not even one! I was shattered, speechless, and panic stricken all at the same time. I cried, “I cannot believe it, I have wasted my entire life!” I had absolutely nothing to show for all my entire time spent on Earth.

Fun and pleasure, which were once everything to me, were not in my mind anymore. At this point, all that mattered to me was to find pure acts of love to offer up to God so that He would accept them. I feverishly searched, but to my dismay I could not find any!

If I would have attained the kingdom of God, I would have passed the most important test one will ever encounter. Compared to this test, all other tests are worth less than nothing. Only if you pass this test has your life been successful. This is the test of your character or the “Test of Life.” Believe me, whether we like it or not, the Lord is testing us all! Having an impeccable character is far more valuable than winning the Powerball Lotto! It is the absolute prerequisite to attaining God consciousness.

Daniel Rosenblist – (near-death.com)

I highly encourage you to check out these testimonies in full, as well as research these in general. Another informative and enlightening account is by Howard Pittman, a Christian minister who actually realized that all of his preaching meant nothing in the eyes of God, simply because he was doing it as a self-preservation. Very detailed and harrowing look into what we think makes a good, successful person, as opposed to the reality.

Even if one is an atheist and doesn’t believe in God, these are still key lessons to live in life. Although, in my humble opinion, the “belief in God” should at least be considered. After all, perhaps “God” as we assume the term to mean, isn’t correct. Perhaps “God” simply means “Love”. If you know and live in love, even if you’re an atheist, then you still believe in God, whether you realize it or not.

The below links also gives us an insight into what a lot of people thought on their deathbed without having a near death experience. Taking into account the way they lived their life and the things they wished they would have done differently.

Hint: None of them ever say, “I wish I had worked harder.”

Notice how none of these life reviews ever mention how well they did on those tests in school. Or “congratulations on getting that promotion”. Or, “Wow! All that money you made was great!”

Same with the deathbed confessions.

Most of the insights from both of these avenues is that it’s all about how we treat each other. Or how little time we spent with each other and the regret that arises from that.

It reminds me of this incredibly sad, but relatable song:

My child arrived just the other day
He came to the world in the usual way
But there were planes to catch and bills to pay
He learned to walk while I was away
And he was talkin’ ‘fore I knew it, and as he grew
He’d say, “I’m gonna be like you, dad
You know I’m gonna be like you”

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin’ home dad?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then son
You know we’ll have a good time then

My son turned ten just the other day
He said, “Thanks for the ball, dad, come on let’s play
Can you teach me to throw”, I said, “Not today
I got a lot to do”, he said, “That’s okay”
And he walked away but his smile never dimmed
And said, “I’m gonna be like him, yeah
You know I’m gonna be like him”

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin’ home son?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then, son
You know we’ll have a good time then

Well, he came home from college just the other day
So much like a man I just had to say
“Son, I’m proud of you, can you sit for a while?”
He shook his head and said with a smile
“What I’d really like, dad, is to borrow the car keys
See you later, can I have them please?”

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin’ home son?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then, son
You know we’ll have a good time then

I’ve long since retired, my son’s moved away
I called him up just the other day
I said, “I’d like to see you if you don’t mind”
He said, “I’d love to, dad, if I can find the time
You see my new job’s a hassle and kids have the flu
But it’s sure nice talking to you, dad
It’s been sure nice talking to you”

And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me
He’d grown up just like me
My boy was just like me

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin’ home son?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then, son
You know we’ll have a good time then

Yes, at the moment, we are tied to societal rules of having a job in order to “make a living”. At least until we step away from this man-made (“man-made”? Some people would refute that…) heirarchy and start working together.

Until then, our main purpose is clear. The way to success, the only success that matters, is to treat each other with love and compassion. Everyday that we strive to become better, kinder people, no matter what arena of life we’re in, we will be successful. And we will be building an even more successful future for the Earth and humankind.

Fact checking is extremely important. I want to reiterate not to take everything at face value; no matter what you read, where you read it from, or who you hear it from. And to be clear, do not rely on “fact checking” websites to give you accurate information either. These are just as likely, (if not even more likely…), to feed false information and false debunking accounts to manipulate the reader. Please take everything into consideration before adhering to a certain narrative – and always keep your mind open to other possibilities.

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