Why is Having Integrity so Hard?

Do we just lack a moral compass? Have we lost our way?

Do we have a moral compass anymore? If we lost it, how do we get it back?

What ever happened to integrity? Does it seem lacking in the world today? Has it gotten worse? Has it gotten better? Or has it always been this way?

I’ve been asking myself this lately while looking at the election wars and the claims that it’s rigged and fixed. Accounts of people getting caught cheating on the ballots. USPS drivers dumping or burning votes for one particular party. Poll watchers getting kicked out if they represent one party over the other… So many different suspicious activity surrounding this election. (And probably others that we have no idea about.)

Of course some people are finding out also about the MSM and the tech giants attacking the republican party. I find it amazing if even the democrats don’t realize that. With so many right-leaning voices being censored and deleted just for expressing their opinion seems mind-boggling to me, to be honest. And even more so, are those that see nothing wrong with it.

I find it fascinating that some people would rather live in a country who encourages lies and subterfuge in order to get their way, rather than an honest and fair election where truly all voices are heard. For those that participate in this horrible deception, I hope you realize that these are exactly the type of people that will bite the hand of those that feed them. Their only goal was to win, and they don’t care about the people they’ve deceived to help them reach their ends.

Now, with that being said, I also understand how many people will be encouraged to participate with bribery. It’s not that they necessarily lean right or left, it’s what they can gain from voting a particular way. Again, where did the integrity go? What happened to having values and standing up for your beliefs? Is this really the way American is heading?

It sometimes seems as if people will also just choose the easy way out. They will lie, cheat, steal… whatever they feel will make their lives easier, instead of working hard and earning their way. Some hold no bones stepping over others just to get ahead, and look down on others who do the right thing and claim that they are weak, pathetic… losers.

This is furthest from the truth.

And what is this teaching our children? Who are the ones participating in these deceptive acts? Are they okay with teaching their children that in order to win, we must trick, deceive, lie, accept bribes, take advantage of others, etc., etc.? Is this what the world is heading to?

Stay Strong

I refuse to cave in. I refuse to hang up my integrity and be reduced to fighting fire with fire. In a world with so little honesty and integrity, it is crucial to remain steadfast in these values and not give in and become one of them. Some people think everyone has a price. And sadly, for some people, that is true. But there are others who don’t care how much money they are offered. They will still stay strong and refuse these offers.

Then there are others that cave in to threats. And there are those that don’t. There are people that realize that this life we’re living in is not all there is in the world. We have a purpose. ALL of us have a purpose. And it’s so simple yet so hard to do.

All we need to do in this world, is learn to love and forgive one another.

That’s it.

If we do that, if we just learn to grow in love and forgiveness, then we wouldn’t want to harm anyone. We wouldn’t want to trick and lie to anyone. We wouldn’t want to keep up this charade of division and hate. Our purpose would grow and evolve to love one another and care about each other. We would have integrity and want to do the right thing.

Why is that so hard to do?

Part of it, is because of the way we’re raised. Pure and simple. Sadly, the true reality is that there are some kids that are not wanted. It’s heartbreaking, but it’s true. Again, this goes back to being a loving and kind human being. Even if a child was not expected, to treat the child with such disdain and hostility is just continuing the vicious cycle of hate and derision. And the child did not ask to be born anyway. So ultimately, who’s responsible for this choice?

Some children are given up for adoption, and the sad reality of some adoption establishments are up for debate. Tales of abuse and neglect, and horrible “household” placements are rampant in this industry. While some legitimate adoption centers can certainly be found, the fact that even some are participating in illegal activities is sadly found as well.

We also have cases where the child is unfortunately born out of rape. It is gut-wrenching all around. The mother did not expect it, and it was just an extremely devastating incidence of violence creating this situation. This is much harder to accept but one could come to the conclusion that even though this atrocious act happened, the “universe” or fate (something), wanted to create something beautiful out of this travesty. And children are the greatest blessing in the world.

But some people don’t treat them as such. Some people treat them as a burden. And they neglect them, take advantage of them, abuse them… the horrors that some people inflict on children are too numerous and truly heinous. This neglect and abuse could twist their outlook on life, and they grow up to treat others in the same manner.

There are even cases where the adults actually teach their children to be manipulative and deceptive. They teach them to be a bully and discriminate against others. There are people that encourage children to be vicious and that it’s a dog eat dog world. (Then we wonder how our world got to the way it was.)

Some people are fine without any children. Some are certain they don’t want any. And there is nothing wrong with that. One can be an honest, loving, compassionate person without wanting any children. But for those that do want them, then yes, the responsibility of raising these children is squarely up to you.

To raise a child isn’t simply to put them in front of a tv screen or a video game. It isn’t to let the daycare/school raise them. As a matter of fact, schools as of late seem to be more of an indoctrination camp than a place where a child can get an education. We must be aware of the material our children are being exposed to. And we must be the parent (not just a “best friend”) and teach them integrity and values and how to be loving and compassionate.

Even if one is raised well, in a sweet, caring household, sometimes society gets their claws on our values and twists it, corrupts it. What was once a caring, kind, generous soul sometimes falls prey to the harsh realities of the outside world. Our views and beliefs get tested and stomped on, with some coming to the (false) realization that in order to get ahead we have to throw others to the side and have the mentality that it’s all for me. “I have to do this for me. I have to do this for my family. The only way to succeed is to stomp on others to get ahead. It’s the only way I can provide for my family.”

This is so far from the truth. But sadly some people will believe this lie. And their once sweet, caring demeanor turns them into a selfish, greedy, power-hungry individual that loses their humanity.

Have you seen the lack of integrity in your day to day life? Are there steps you’re taking to ingratiate yourself into spreading honesty and integrity to the people around you?
Some real life examples I have found, for both those with integrity and without, are below:

Without Integrity:

  • a coworker encouraging another employee to take longer breaks, just so she can turn around and snitch on this employee
  • cases of people throwing other people under the bus to rise in the ranks at their job
  • group of kids relying on one person to do the entire group project, just so they can take credit for it afterwards
  • an employee blaming a coworker for a project that went wrong – even though they were the one who made the mistake
  • people scamming others on video games to get free items / in-game currency
  • a mother leaving her child with a family member for days on end so she can pursue a relationship with another
  • a parent encouraging their son to bully another child

These are just a few examples of real life cases that I have personally seen a lack of integrity. There are many others, of course, with even more brutal repercussions, but these are just some that I have seen happen to myself and/or others in my regular daily life.

Now here are some examples of people displaying integrity:

With Integrity:

  • children on a team working together and including everyone to play, without discluding anyone; even if some children are completely new and didn’t know how to play
  • a boss apologizing to an employee for singling him out in front of everyone
  • a child telling his mother the truth when another family member was trying to cover (lie) for him
  • an employee owning up to a mistake that was made and took the blame, rather than pawning the situation off on another
  • a group of kids equally partaking in a group project and each contributing fairly
  • a person in an opposing group, admitting when his own side is cheating the system
  • a student with the opportunity to cheat, but chooses not to, risking a bad grade in the process

Choose to do the Right Thing

There are plenty of ways that people can decide to choose to do the right thing, and those that choose not to. It all boils down to our code of ethics. Some have a stronger moral compass. And others don’t seem to have one at all.

But we have the power to stop this awful cycle by being caring and compassionate ourselves. Teach the children and others that we don’t have to live in a world without integrity and decency. Be the strong, brave person and rise above it all and refuse to cave in to this system. Be an example for others to see that even though the world has its dark and deceptive moments, that you will not participate in that. You will continue to do the right thing.

And it doesn’t matter if you believe in God or not. I, personally, DO believe in God and encourage others to seek the truth as well. But I think what God really looks at, is what’s inside your heart. Some might not believe in God per se, but if you have unconditional love and compassion in your heart, then you actually DO know Him. Just not in the way that you think.

And I believe in Jesus Christ. I believe he was the example that walked the Earth trying to show us a better way of living, but the people that were opposed to this new way of living wanted to remain in a state of debauchery and sin. And therefore hated him. I honestly believe that a lot of division and chaos going on in the world today is because of these ancient civilizations refusing to conform to Jesus’s teachings. Which is why it’s in the state it’s in. They know he exists, they know God exists, but they stay in a position of defiance and rebelliousness.

This will be their downfall, but it doesn’t have to be for you.

Do the right thing. Choose the right path, no matter which road you take. Have integrity and stand up for your beliefs. Just make sure you’re on the right side…

20 Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness, who put bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter! 21 Woe to those who are wise in their own eyes, and shrewd in their own sight!
Isaiah 5:20-21
15 Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16 For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions—is not from the Father but is from the world. 17 And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever.
John 2:15-17

Fact checking is extremely important. I want to reiterate not to take everything at face value; no matter what you read, where you read it from, or who you hear it from. And to be clear, do not rely on “fact checking” websites to give you accurate information either. These are just as likely, (if not even more likely…), to feed false information and false debunking accounts to manipulate the reader. Please take everything into consideration before adhering to a certain narrative – and always keep your mind open to other possibilities.

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